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Wednesday, August 14, 2024

Tampon Tim

It is possible (even likely) that you have not heard the term - Tampon Tim.  I only heard the term last week when conservative (right wing) media starting calling Tim Walz by the nickname Tampon Tim.

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According to the NPR article,  "The moniker refers to a law that Walz, the governor of Minnesota, signed last year, requiring public schools to provide menstrual products — including pads and tampons — to students in 4th through 12th grades. The products are free for students, with the state paying about $2 per pupil to keep them stocked throughout the school year.

The law, which was the result of years of advocacy by students and their allies, took effect on January 1, 2024, though students say the rollout has so far been smoother in some school districts than others.

It makes Minnesota one of 28 states (and Washington D.C.) that have passed laws aimed at giving students access to menstrual products in schools, according to the Alliance for Period Supplies. The issue enjoys broad popular support: 30 states have eliminated state sales tax on menstrual products, and Trump himself signed a 2018 package that requires federal prisons to provide them."


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Here is the link to the actual policy document if you wish to read it. I did. Unlike the misinformation/disinformation being doled out by the bucketful, it says nothing about "tampons in boys bathroom". The law leaves it up to the schools to decide how best to meet the needs of their students.

I was disgusted by the right wing media but not surprised.

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I was 11 years old when my friend got her period. She told me about it including the pain in her belly and lower back. She also showed me what a sanitary napkin looked like. Why can't you just go to the toilet and pee it out, I had wondered. Since it hadn't happened to me, I could not realize the involuntary nature of the flow.

Few months later, there was a "huge incident" in our all girls convent school. Some girl came running out of the bathroom, screaming, "there is a ghost in the bathroom." Someone had discarded a bloody sanitary napkin and there were bloodstains on the bathroom wall. Ten and 11-year olds in the pre-computer era were panic-stricken.

Next week, Sister Principal came to our classroom and gave us the Puberty Talk. Not a lot of biology but enough that we knew what to expect and not panic when it did.

Next year when I got my period, I quietly went to my mom and asked for a sanitary pad. 

How many of us have found ourselves in the absolute horrific situation when the period came early or caught us unawares two days after we thought we were done? 

I remember staining my white skirt (I was in the 13) and tying my sweater around my waist to hide it. 

When I came to the US and saw the vending machines in our college campus bathrooms, where you had to insert a quarter to get a sanitary pad/tampon, it blew me away. So simple and so useful.


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It is natural to bleed. Half the world does. So why the taboo? Why the shame? 

Because it makes men in patriarchal societies uncomfortable. Because it isn't about making women/girls comfortable. It is about preventing any discomfort to men.

So when Tim Walz ensures that girls (and transgender boys) have access to hygiene products, I am overcome with gratitude. Thank you, Coach. You got my vote!


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The idea for the quilt came last week. I was listening to this episode of Pod Save America, when Melissa Murray mentioned the Menstrual Equity Bill (26:40 - 26:52). She added that if she were Tim Walz, she would wear a t-shirt saying "I am Tampon Tim and I am here to stop the red wave."

That is when I had to drop everything and make this quilt. 

Completed Quilt, 26" by 29"

Here are a few more pictures.

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I will be sharing with all my favorite linky parties. See full list on the sidebar. Should you wish to share your experiences or express solidarity with the girls/women who benefit from menstrual equity, you are welcome. I will delete negative comments.


41 comments:

  1. Bless you, Preeti! Very well stated and I absolutely LOVE the quilt!

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  2. Thanks for the post! This is why I make purses to donate to Sew Powerful (purse project) to help girls in school in Zambia, where they do not access to monthly hygiene products. Sew Powerful employs local women to make the reusable pads, laundry soap, and provides underwear for the girls too. Without the hygiene products girls would miss school as they had nothing to use and they cannot make up school days missed, which adds up to a lot of missed days and falling behind and a lot of dropouts. So volunteers like myself around the world can help by making a purse (using the pattern that's free on sewpowerful.org website) and the purses hold the hygiene items that they fill the purses with when the purses arrive in Zambia and are distributed to the various schools there. I love this organization of women helping women and girls and it all comes from donations of money to pay those women to make the items listed above a living wage (many were able to quit their prostituting when they were hired and many more want to be hired so they too can quit prostitution) and from volunteers making the purses too. From now through the end of September is their annual Sew-a-thon and major fundraiser to help these women and girls, but donations can be given all year and anyone can start making purses to donate. We have a great Facebook group (I am one of the experts on the FB group) that are all supportive, positive, helpful and inspiring with sharing their purses. So anyone that has a ton of fabric and wants to sew purses to donate or just donate fabric to others in the group who sew purses, please join us. Together we are Sew Powerful!!!

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    1. That is amazing, Daryl. I don’t know if I have the skills needed to make purses, but I’m going to check it out.

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  3. Preeti, your quilt is wonderful, and I appreciate everything you wrote about menstrual products being available to girls in school! I'm guessing every woman has had similar experiences to what you describe and been embarrassed by it. My state, Colorado, has passed the same kind of bill into law this year, too. Harris and Walz have my vote!

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  4. Preeti, this is wonderful!
    In the U.S. we had "Growing Up and Liking It" in 5th grade. It was a movie made for Kotex (Kimberly Clark) about menstruation (and hygiene and of course Kotex). All the fifth-grade girls attended and their mothers were invited. My mom had to take off work, and she came. Mr. Lukas, the principal, had to come in to adjust the projector and the girls were squeamish about his even being in the room.
    On to the present day: one of the responses to this "tampons in the fourth grade boys' bathroom" outrage: someone said, "My brother grew up with tampons in the bathroom because I used them and we shared the bathroom. He grew up unscathed."

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  5. I hadn't heard the nickname, but I like your t-shirt idea. Definitely something to take credit for. Love the quilt! Such a fun idea. I have such a hard time understanding how we've taken so many steps backward in our education system that in today's society there are so many men and many women that really don't understand how the human body works.

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  6. I appreciate this post. Lots of shameful memories around my period.

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  7. LOVE IT! The R wing is so off the wall with their "ideals", it scares the crap out of me that they will get votes.

    WOMEN UNITE!

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  8. A companionate law. It's painful enough to get a period, and I see no reason to make it difficult to deal with by hiding the tampons. Thanks for sharing on my weekly show and tell, Wednesday Wait Loss.
    https://www.inquiringquilter.com/questions/2024/08/14/wednesday-wait-loss-393

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  9. I came from a family that didnt talk about menstrual cycles. I was given a certain amount of hygiene products and when those were not enough every month I resorted to using toilet paper which is uncomfortable and didn’t work well. The combination of the shame I felt and knowing money was tight led me to embarrassing and degrading situations I still feel 40 years later. Having products available in school would have made a difference to me. And I am so glad these laws are being passed

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  10. I LOVE this quilt Preeti! And couldn’t agree more with your analysis. Women and girls have suffered with this BS of being uninformed, lack of supplies, and having a natural body function treated as taboo. Of course the right is going to ridicule a guy who helped bring menstruation out of the dark ages by making menstrual products widely available in schools. The MAGATS are such backward, hateful, idiots.

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  11. May I share your quilt with a link back to your blog on my FB page?

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    1. Share away!!! Please include a link to this post.

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  12. are you on a face book page called "Pantsuit Nation"? I thought I saw a photo of this quilt on there - maybe it was on instagram? I love the face book group- you might too - all about getting Harris and Walz elected and different ideas to engage in conversation. In my family your periods were not discussed but kind of hidden this was back in the 60's the large box of tampons and pads were hidden in the bathroom by my mother I guess to protect all of my younger brothers? who knows - there were 3 daughters than 8 boys - they had all the privileges of course. In the 60's at school bathrooms we had the machine on the wall for 10 cents of course I was shown if you didn't have a dime how to stick a long handle of a skinny comb up in the machine to pull one out LOL - they should have been free!!

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  13. I have such a quilt crush on you. You are amazing

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  14. Oh wow -- I hadn't heard the "Tampon Tim" nickname or anything about the Minnesota legislation that inspired it, but I agree, how bizarre and how very out-of-touch that anyone thinks that providing menstrual products to public school students is something any governor or legislator should be ashamed of. Total backfire, in my opinion, because many Democrat and Undecided voters probably didn't know anything about this law before the Republicans brought it up, and it's bound to create more enthusiasm for the Democratic ticket (and lots of questions about why Republicans WOULDN'T support providing menstrual products at school). After all, the schools provide toilet paper, Kleenex, band aids and first aid products at the school nurse's office, and other basic hygiene products to students and they have done so for decades. Grown men name-calling one another and acting squeamish about tampons just underscores what Tim Walz has been saying all along -- those guys on the other side are just plain WEIRD!

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  15. I'm almost always disgusted by the right-wing pundits and their middle school name calling! I was also 11 and freaked out. And I spent decades in HS classrooms, so I experienced how traumatic the monthly experience can be for some girls. I (and other female colleagues) made sure all the girls in our classrooms knew they could come to us for supplies if needed. Love your way of honoring a man who "gets it", and actually signed a common sense law.

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  16. I have most certainly heard the term, and bless you for turning it from an insult to a good thing. Your quilt, your courage in putting it out there and the story behind it is just the best.

    No need for the details, but young me having access to period supplies would have made a huge difference in my young life.

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  17. There are so many things people are afraid to talk about in this country. Ignorance is not bliss. Great quilt Preeti and way to go Gov Tim Walz!

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  18. Thank you Preeti for raising this issue, what a wonderful thing the Governor did in passing this law. I live in far away New Zealand and have to say that I am disgusted by the juvenile and spiteful name calling that some of your politicians indulge in. Don't they realise that the whole world is watching and judging such behaviour?

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  19. Thank you..awesome information.

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  20. I love your quilt! I hadn't heard the Tampon Tim story, but this is the perfect response. And now that I've heard this story, I'm even happier that Tim will be the next V.P. Thanks for sharing!

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  21. Awesome! I always love your quilts and the stories behind them, but I love this one extra. Thank you!

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  22. Preeti, your fabulous quilt causes me to smile and say...'YES'! So, so clever! Love the design you imagined and the message is brilliant. Your thoughts as always are succinct and on point. I have a keen interest in American politics and have listened to many podcasts of late re the state of your politics....the upcoming election. Governor Tim Walz is a breath of fresh air! I love how both he and Vice President Kamala Harris have hit the ground running. Waving my blue flag all the way down here. Now, if only I could vote. =)

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  23. You write such interesting posts - love this one and have learnt something about Mr Walz. Great quilt. xx

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  24. It's all about human rights, and still it's a taboo. Bravo Preeti for your quilt! In France, since 2023 many secondary schools have installed free, open-access dispensers for pads and tampons.
    But before that, and since September 2021, free, environmentally-friendly sanitary protection dispensers have been deployed on all university campuses. The Minister for Higher Education, Ms Vidal said at the time: “Menstrual precariousness is a collective issue and a real question of dignity, solidarity and health. It is unacceptable that, in 2021, we will have to choose between feeding ourselves and being able to protect ourselves”.
    And finally, the Social Security Financing Act of December 26, 2023, allows young people under the age of 26 to benefit from free reusable sanitary protection. This concerns around 6.7 million people in France. Slow progress!

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  25. Love this quilt. Thank you for your post. I am sad that it took courage to say these things, but I salute your willingness to jump into the fray. Where have we come to? I just heard an explanation as to why feminine products SHOULD be placed in the boys' washrooms; in many schools, during inter-school team sporting competitions, the visiting team uses the restroom of the other gender, eg. the visiting boys' football team uses the home team's girls' restroom, and on a day when the girls' soccer team is playing, the visiting girls would use the home boys' restroom. They need access to feminine products. Boys can learn both biology and how to be gracious hosts; it's a win-win!

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  26. "Right on!" is appropriate for your post. And your quilt is wonderful - love it!

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  27. Preeti— I so agree with all the above comments. This is a fantastic way to spread the word. I shared widely with my friends with lots of great comments coming in. Your blogs of late has been right on target. What a wise woman you are. Thank you for what you’re doing to spread the love and joy and squash the hate.

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  28. Bless you, Preeti for making this quilt and sharing its origin.

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  29. Love this!! Thank you!!

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  30. It is a good start to help young girls againts misshaps. Hope the idea spreads! So frustrating this topic is taboo. Because even "grown women" can have mishaps or even medical reasons that force mishaps. It would help us all if we felt more "normal" about a totally normal body function. xo

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  31. Preeti, I always love your quilts but this one tops them all! Love, love love what you made, and the sentiment behind it. Way to go, girl. ❤️

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  32. Charlotta58@gmail.com here - such a great quilt and such great sentiments. It’s wonderful to feel hopeful again and I really appreciate you for being so honest in your quilts and on your blood about how you feel. In these times of strict polarization and such strong feelings, it seems that lots of people have decided that politics are off limits for fear that they might upset somebody. I don’t subscribe to that policy and have always been a very outspoken person - I’ve often been accused of being too blunt. I try not to offend people and obviously I very much avoid being rude. It is never my intention to upset anyone, hurt people’s feelings. But I do think it’s important to tell the truth and at times it’s essential to bear witness to the truth when others are lying or when the issue at stake is an important one. When others can be hurt if you do not speak out, or if you’re the only person available to speak out. If you do not speak out, it looks like you agree with the lie, and I don’t ever want to be in that position.
    Right now, given the state of politics in the US, I feel that the possibility of Trump getting re-elected would be an absolute disaster for our country for more reasons than I could possibly list. And therefore I feel compelled to speak out whenever it might make even a tiny difference. I will not let his lies and hatred go unrebutted. It is too important.

    And I so very much appreciate it every time I see anybody else doing the same. Especially anybody who has an audience. Thank you, Preeti. 🌹💙💐🪷

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  33. A great quilt and wonderful that states are doing this. I remembering telling my mom, who in her. usual manner "oh s..t, I am out and need to go to the drug store". My brothers used sanitary napkins as knee pads for football and tampons as rockets...my life in a nutshell. You gotta laugh. But thank goodness people realize what a difference having free supplies can make.

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  34. Hi Preeti, I had no idea what your quilt was about. We all have horror stories about getting caught with red stains on our pants or skirts. It's crazy that it takes a law to make these available in school. Thanks for linking up to Free Motion Mavericks.

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  35. Love this! I never really thought about it but knew at my high school the school nurse (yes, we had one and she had an office and bathroom) always had menstrual products available in her bathroom for free. I believe our elementary school (yes, another nurse full time and her own area) also had the same set up. This was in Vermont in the 1980's.

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  36. I have followed you and your beautiful, original quilts for a long time. This makes me appreciate you even more. Thank you for speaking out!

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  37. My first menstrual cycle started when I was at a friend's house while my mom and her mom were out spending time together in town. I didn't have a clue what was happening to me, so I just wadded up a lot of toilet paper until my mom came to pick me up. I sure hope Tim helps stop the red wave; I'm looking forward to voting for him and Kamala. Fantastic quilt and thanks for linking up with Favorite Finish.

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